Myth #1: Only people with chronic mental illnesses need psychotherapy.

About 1 in 5 adults in America seeks treatment for mental health problems in a given year. People seek mental health treatment for many reasons. It can be relationship or family problems, grief, anxiety, depression, anger problems, addictions, trauma, life transitions... While some of the mental health illnesses have a genetic component, others might be a result of stressful living conditions. Mental health illness is similar to a medical illness and seeking help and support from a medical provider or psychotherapist is a sign of good judgment, motivation, and willingness to improve your life.

Myth #2: Seeking therapy is a sign of weakness.

Some people believe that seeking therapy is a sign of weakness, when in fact this is the other way around. It requires a huge amount of courage and trust to admit to yourself that you have a problem and to request help. Most people are raised to be independent and to solve their problems on their own. While trying to find a solution yourself might be a good approach in some situations, rejecting help and treatment when you need it might result in a loss of relationships and opportunities. When a problem becomes overwhelming for you or your loved ones this is the sign that you, your child, or your family need additional help. It requires courage, persistence, and a good deal of organizational skills to seek treatment and to stay in therapy long enough to get results.

Myth #3: Talking about my problems will make me feel worse.

Starting therapy can be anxiety-provoking, but if you want to learn how to control your behaviors and release feelings associated with painful memories, you would need to be honest about your feelings and learn how to experience them in a safe way. The role of a therapist is to guide you through this process by helping you to learn coping skills and to make sure that you are emotionally connected, but not too overwhelmed. Psychotherapy can be compared with immunization - it might hurt in the beginning, but protects you from serious harm in the future. Just like medications, the dosage of the therapeutic interventions needs to be well measured to be effective.

Myth #4: My therapist will solve my problems.

I am going to disappoint those people who believe that a therapist is like a wizard who can see and remove all obstacles in your way. The job of a therapist is to help clients to find their own answers and solution to their problems. A good therapist will help you to identify unhelpful thoughts and behaviors and to plan interventions that can improve your life, and tap into your own life wisdom.

Myth #5: You have to stay in the therapy for years to see results.

The length of treatment depends on the nature and complexity of mental health problems. While some people choose to see a psychotherapist for brief solution-focused interventions, others might need longer treatment. A therapist will help you to develop therapeutic goals at the beginning of your therapy and will revise your goals with you through the course of the treatment. Therapy is often about changing unhelpful habits and behaviors and developing new ways of addressing problems. According to a recent study, it takes on average more than 60 days of practice to establish a new habit. Give you some time and be patient, but remember that you are in charge. You have the option to end therapy if you feel you are not making progress.

Myth #6: If you have a good friend you don't need a therapist.

Having a friend with whom you can talk and share your feelings is important, but therapy is very different from a friendly conversation. First of all, we are invested in our relationships with friends and we are often censoring what we say to them in order to protect their feeling. The goal of your therapist is your well-being. Licensed therapists received rigorous training that allows them to choose the most appropriate therapeutic interventions for a given problem. They know when and how to challenge you in a respectful way. Everything that you say in therapy is protected by the rules of confidentiality, and while your friends are not obligated to keep your secrets, all licensed psychotherapists and clinicians follow their professional confidentiality rules.

Myth #7: If you don't believe in therapy, it is not going to work.

While people tend to have more progress when they believe that they can change their life by seeing a therapist, the learning process doesn't stop when they remain skeptical. Being skeptical might be a form of resistance that is useful to discuss openly. In family and couples therapy some family members might deny problems and question the necessity of therapeutic intervention, but as long as they are committed to creating respectful relationships, they can learn how to improve their life, social skills, and emotional connection with their loved ones.

Lana Emelyanov is a licensed therapist with over 10 years of experince as an individual, couple and family therapist.

I learned about Reiki sixteen years ago when I was looking for holistic practices that can help boost the immune system and reduce stress. I was surprised to discover that in addition to enhancing the immune function and promoting relaxation, Reiki can also reduce pain and fever. While my mind tried to find a scientific explanation for how Reiki actually works, my body continued to benefit from it. After trying Reiki for myself I attended several trainings and became a second degree Reiki practitioner.

Nowadays Reiki is being introduced into a variety of medical settings including Harvard University Center for Wellness, Boston Children’s Hospital, Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, Tufts Medical Center, Mass General Cancer Center at Emerson Hospital, and many more. It is more commonly known, but people still frequently ask me: “What is Reiki?”

Reiki is an energy medicine practice that promotes physical and emotional well-being. Reiki, much like acupuncture, works on the ability to balance the human energy field. It improves energy flow while reducing stress and allowing the body to heal itself naturally.

During Reiki session the practitioner gently places his/her hands on or near the body of the person receiving the treatment. It can also be remotely and used for self-treatment.

Reiki sessions have cumulative effects. After the initial treatment some clients choose to continue receiving Reiki regularly for maintaining balance and addressing chronic conditions.

Several research studies indicate that the benefits of Reiki include

• Relaxation
• Recovery from stress and fatigue
• Pain relief
• Improved mental clarity
• Increased sense of well-being

Reiki has a spiritual component and is based on principles of compassion and gratitude. It can be combined with traditional and complementary therapies to enhance their effects. If you decide to try it, it may assist you in functioning in a more balanced and harmonious way.

Lana Emelyanov is a licensed therapist with over 10 years of experince as an individual, couple and family therapist.

Two weeks ago I returned from the No Barriers Summit held at Copper Mountain, Colorado.  All my life mountains have been inspirations for me and my family. I was a mountain climber in college and my heart always belongs to those magnificent, towering peaks, valleys, mountain streams, and icefalls. Mountains remind me that the world is beautiful and calm. They ground me and give me a new perspective. Issues and troubles simply become insignificant when you hit the mountain path and gaze at the mountain ridge. Every mountain for me is a visual symbol of a big goal that can be reached with enough courage, training, planning, persistence, and support. Isn’t this true for every life goal? This time in the Colorado mountains was even more special for me than usual. I met many amazing people, whose life stories about persistence, passion, and creativity continue to inspire me. One of them was Eric Weihenmayer, blind adventurer, speaker, author, filmmaker, and organizer of the No  Barriers Summit. Not a long time ago I read Eric’s book, Touch The Top of The World, where he talks about his life, friends, passions, and disability. If you ever need a reminder of unlimited possibilities and courage in the face of life challenges, I recommend you look into this book. I also suggest taking some time this summer to explore beautiful and quiet corners of this universe. Look at the sky, sit by the lake, listen to the ocean, walk the mountain paths, listen to the leaves rustling in the wind, and ask yourself, what makes me happy? Remind yourself about your dreams and hold them close to your heart. 

Lana Emelyanov is a licensed therapist with over 10 years of experince as an individual, couple and family therapist.